Life is a series of ebbs and flows- how to deal with the highs & lows of life ♥
One minute you're riding the wave, everything feels in flow, you're on the top of the world. The next you've come crashing down as the ground feels like quick sand and the tide comes crashing over you.
That is life.
Recently I was bodyboarding in Cornwall for the first time, and it was amazing. The high you feel as you catch the wave just right and it sends you sailing right into shore. But I could count on one hand how many times this actually happened amongst the failed attempts, not quite large enough waves, belly flops and face plants.
It gave me a great metaphor for life in general. We can't expect to get it completely perfect every time. There are near perfects, averages, halves and complete fails. But we learn from every single wave. Each disaster or near miss makes the perfection, when it comes, feel ten times better. And who wouldn't want that?
For after all, it is by feeling failure and rejection that we learn to appreciate when things do go our way and when you do succeed at something.
But how do we deal with life's ebbs and flows, especially when it feels like it's just one knockout after the next?
I'll give you three tips:
Really feel each emotion as it comes. If you're sad, sit with it. Write it out. If you're ecstatic, do the same thing. Learning that emotion isn't a fixed state is the key to living a fulfilled and well-rounded life. Don't beat yourself up if you don't wake up with a spring in your step every single day. We are not wired to be this way. Breathe into your emotions. By taking accountability and recognising them, you will appreciate the complexity of the human emotive system more and more every day.
Find a constant in the ever shifting sphere of your emotional journey. Find some activity that brings you comfort no matter what. It doesn't have to bring you immense joy or some kind of high. It just needs to be something you can come back to no matter what. This could be a comfort show on Netflix, a particular book, a cup of tea, a walking route, a type of cheese. Build something into your routine that will be there no matter the weather.
Communicate with those around you. I guarantee you there will be someone that relates to how you are feeling not too far out of reach. But without an open conversation you will never know. We all walk along with our heads down and earphones in and can so often miss the signs of someone struggling. So even if you're feeling good and happy, open the floor for conversations with friends and family, and I am sure they will also be there for you in your low moments too.
I hope you found comfort in my writing today and that it gave you something to think about at least. If you ever want to chat please do drop me a DM on Instagram, I'm always here for you.
Remember, you are the author of your story and your life begins as soon as you decide to pick up the pen.
Lots of love,
x x x